The terms ideal life and dream life often get throw around.
When you hear them, you may have a snippet of what that life may look like for you. A flash of a vision of what your life could be.
Some people don’t have any vision at all.
It is pretty hard to achieve something that you can’t see clearly.
Our brains are programmed in a way to create what we fixate on. Essentially, whatever story you tell yourself is what you will create in your life.
Consider what you are giving your brain to focus on.
Do you constantly think about the negative parts of your life?
How much you don’t want to go to work. Or how busy and stressful your schedule is.
This is what you will create more of in your life.
To create your dream life you have to have a clear vision of what that life will be. The clearer the picture the more your brain can get to work on it.
In this post you will have questions to get clear on what you want in life and ways to keep it in focus for you.
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Questions to Design Your Dream Life
Use these questions as prompts to write out all of your thoughts about a dream life. When you answer them imagine that anything is possible. There is no limit to what you can achieve.
As soon as you start putting filters on your vision you are watering down what you truly want out of life.
Certainly consider your current life. You get to decide what you keep of your current life as part of this dream. A lot of people feel shame and guilt when their vision eliminates certain parts of your life.
Being authentic to what you truly want is being honest with yourself. There is no reason for you to have guilt or shame. You don’t have to choose to act on those wants. Just notice your why and how that feels.
Resources –
How to Live Intentionally (Blog Post)
How to Live Intentionally (Video Training)
How to Know You Are Doing The Right Thing (Blog Post)
Environment
- Where would you live?
- What type of dwelling would you live in? An apartment? A house?
- What is the décor inside?
- Who lives with you?
- Do you have any pets?
Resource – How To Have A Calming Space (Blog Post)
Relationships
- Are you in a relationship?
- Do you have a lot of friends?
- Do you have kids?
- Do you spend time with your family?
- Do you have a car? What kind? What color?
- What kind of clothes do you wear?
Resource – 15 Questions for Relationship Clarity (Blog Post)
Health & Mindset
- What is your physique?
- Do you work out?
- What type of food do you eat?
- What do you think about?
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Career/Business
- Do you work? Where? What type?
- What is your network like?
- Do you own your own business?
Money
- How much money do you make?
- What do you spend your money on?
- Do you donate money?
- Do you invest in anything?
Resource – Always Have Enough Money (Blog Post)
Fun
- Do you travel?
- What hobbies do you have?
- How often do you go on vacation?
- Where do you go on vacation?
- What type of vacation is it?
Personal
- What type of person are you?
- What personality traits do you have?
- Who do you show up as in the world?
Put it Together
Once you have considered the various areas of your life and what they would like as an ideal version you can put them together by doing the exercise of imagining what your perfect day would look like.
From the moment that you wake up through your entire day what happens? No detail is too small to include.
Take your time to really see and feel what this day looks like.
I always recommend writing this down. Periodically I revisit what my ideal day looks like. It is a great way to tap into where you want your life to go.
Resources
Personal Development Goals
Focus
Write down what you want. It becomes more tangible when you it exists beyond than just in your mind.
As you answer the questions and imagine your perfect day put a pen to paper to get your thoughts out.
You can even create a visual representation of your dream life through a vision board.
You can use the old school method of cutting out picture out of magazines or printing them out and gluing them to a board together. The images would represent the various parts of your ideal life. This can help strengthen the vision.
There are now apps and websites you can use to create virtual vision boards that you can take with you.
Similar to vision boards you can create affirmation pages. Take pieces of your vision and turn them into I am statements.
For example, if you own your own business. It would be – I am a successful business owner making $100,00 a year.
You would write the statement on a page and add images around it that support it. The pages can be stored in a binder to make them easy to review.
Either method you choose you will want to keep it in an area that you can see it often. Remember that the brain focuses on what you tell it to. Give it something positive to produce.
Resources –
5 Motivational Quotes You Need to Hear Today (Blog Post)
11 Intentional Living Quotes (Blog Post)
Goals
You can take your dream life and create goals for you to reach.
It is not necessary to tackle every aspect of it at once. Start with an area that doesn’t seem to much of a leap from your current life.
You want to set a goal that you believe you can achieve right now and build up from there.
A helpful exercise to help you achieve your goals is to find a notebook. It can be a pocket size or full size. Inside of it everyday you write a page as if you have already achieved your goal.
You can gain such amazing insight writing in this format. The person that has already achieved the goal knows exactly how you need to think, feel, and act to make it happen.
Tapping into that energy will allow you to truly believe and make great strides towards your goals.
When you feel stuck on moving towards your goal use this exercise to see what the person who has already achieved the goal would do.
A great question to add to your journaling or consider when making your schedule is – If, you really believed you would reach your goal what would you be doing right now?
Resource – Personal Growth Goals for Every Area of Your Life (Blog Post)
Consistency
Consistency is the key. Everyday you need to review your vision for your life.
If, you’re short on time and the other exercises won’t fit into your day right now then right when you wake up or right before you go to sleep sit with your eyes closed and really imagine having your dream life.
You can do this along with the other exercises. There is no downside to doing multiple exercises unless it gets in the way of you taking action.
Imaging and thinking about your vision is important but taking consistent action is what will allow you to achieve your desired result.
Action
Nothing happens by chance. We are 100% responsible for the results that you have in your life. This is the most amazing thing because you get to create something amazing for the future as well.
Messy action is better than no action. In order to move forward and make things change then you have to do things.
Our actions are a direct result of the thoughts and feelings we have. Begin with managing your mind and your actions will begin to align where you want them to.
Resources
How Do You Know When It Is the Right Time? (Blog Post)
Final Note
You can create anything you want in your life. There is no limit except the ones you put on yourself.
Be honest with what you truly want as you consider each area of your life. There can be a lot of resistance if it looks different than the life you are currently living. But you always have the choice to decide what you want.
Out of sight out of mind is a real thing. Keep your brain focused to what you truly want out of life by journaling, creating vision boards, affirmation pages, and consistently reviewing them.
The idea of your dream life isn’t written in stone. You can change what it looks like. I always say no matter the decision you make just like your why behind it.
